'To me, to love is to find the only thing that can make things a little better when they’re not so good – and let’s face it, no one is feeling so good all the time'
I know we’re all used to seeing me show up here and talk about new trends for the season, how to style an item or any other fashion related topic - and that’s right, that’s what I do. But I thought I could do something a little different today, but not so much that it will be out of topic from what I usually do, just trust me and keep on reading. My point here is not to talk about any new trendy pieces, makeup styles or anything like that, but to discuss something much deeper and more profound than all that - not that those things can’t be part of it. Love. Today, I’m here to talk about love, passion and everything in between. Maybe Valentine’s Day spirit hasn’t left my body yet, I don’t know. I just felt inspired - and I’m sure I’ll find a way to bring some Fashion talk into it.
But for starters here, I want to focus on actual love. Just the feeling, the concept behind it. Love in all its different forms and shapes. I don’t really know about you but when I think about it I always picture a kind of love that some say doesn't even exist. You know that kind that takes your feet off the ground and makes all other feelings and sensations feel small? The one kind that makes the world stop and at that moment all that really matters is the thing you love. And I know it sounds like I’ve just watched too many romcoms growing up and maybe I’m just wanting ‘The Notebook’ to be a real story, but I’m not only talking about romantic love - even if that’s a very important kind of love. To me, to love is to find the only thing that can make things a little better when they’re not so good – and let’s face it, no one is feeling so good all the time, and that’s totally ok, because we all need to love and feel loved sometimes - and maybe we really can find it in a hopeless place, I would never disagree with Rihanna.
And when I say hopeless place, I don’t mean a sad, actually hopeless place, but somewhere you wouldn’t expect to find it. To me, that place is in fashion a lot of times - I told you I would find a way to bring fashion into it somehow. It was not difficult at all, if I’m telling the truth. Because yes, I have this deep passion for fashion that makes me emotional and sometimes even angry when something happens, but there’s more to it. I can actually feel love for it. When I see something so beautiful it makes my eyes water, that’s love. When I get to see or even try on a piece that carries so much history and I’ve been wanting to see forever, that’s love. When I choose the outfit I’m going to wear for my birthday or for my nephew’s baptism, all in order to feel and look my best through my clothes, that’s all love.
So I would say that yes, love is a very present thing in fashion - and everywhere else you look for it. But here for us working and living in fashion, it is such a big part that it is literally displayed in campaigns and collections - I know you remember L’ Amour from Jacquemus, for example. Not to mention when the theme of a runway show or campaign idea is all about love - the celebration of love is always something very explored by designs. And that’s not all, because the biggest display of love in Fashion in probably seen in some not-so-little gestures, like when you find the exact match of clothes you wanted to wear for your wedding or to celebrate your birthday - do you know that feeling when an outfit you put together in your mind looks just as good in real life? You can’t tell me that’s not a lot like falling in love.
That’s usually the moment when you put on something and it looks so beautiful, and you look so beautiful and comfortable on your skin that it makes you feel like you are the prettiest, most important person to ever exist - giving big main character vibes here but you get the point. That’s a very specific kind of love, because it’s like falling in love with ourselves, and more than that, with the idea we have about ourselves. Finding your style and being able to wear it fearlessly is a very deep kind of love. Same when your mother or any dear person to you buys you a shirt from a place they visited, or a bag they saw and thought you might like it.
That’s caring, and sometimes to show love is to care, and how beautiful is it that fashion garments can be used to show love and care? I’m not exaggerating when I say just thinking about it makes me a little emotional - guess that’s what happens when you make fashion more than your hobby, more than you passion, more than even you job, but actually your life.
The truth is that to find pleasure and connection in something is an act of love, feeling like you belong somewhere doing something is an act of love, and for me I find it in fashion among many other places - and you might feel the same way. Actually, to search for this feeling and to keep it alive is an act of self-love, perhaps the most important kind of love there is. You might find it elsewhere and that’s great too, but sometimes to study or just to watch something about Fashion is what brings that much needed comfort to someone, and that’s the very definition of love. Love is everywhere, we just have to look for it – and be prepared to accept it when it finds us. I agree with anyone that says you have to have passion for what you do and for life, but love is bigger than that.